Why is it so Hard???
I’m sitting here almost at my personal goal and I have to wonder, why is it so hard for some people to be happy for those of us who have lost our weight or even be happy for those who have lost a big portion of their weight. Take for example, my husband, although I know he loves me and has loved me and thought I looked great at my heaviest he never tells me that I look good or that he is proud of all I have lost. He does come from a family with some large women, but I just want him to tell me that I look good. He has told a few of my friends that he is proud of me for what I have done but never has he told me. What gives?
Then I have a buddy who is loosing like crazy, and it is so hard for her to get much positive feedback from those that “love” her most. She is working to loose the weight for herself and she is happy for what she has done but she has so many negatives in her life it is just unreal. I know she will over come the negativity because the fact that she has lost so much already shows that she is STRONG. But along with the weight she has lost a few so-called friends.
So once again I have to ask, “Why is it so hard for others to be happy for us who want to make a lifestyle change and be healthy and improve our lives?” Why?????
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I don’t know why this happens, but happens to me too! My hubby tells me he is proud of me, but usually only when I am fishing for a compliment. He tell others he is proud of me. He even made a comment to someone about maybe I was going to leave him for someone else when I lost the weight! Yea, right. We will be married 29 years at the end of this month! I think I will just keep the one I have!
Have a good one!
Cheryl your the greatest!!! I just love it that you understand what I am going thru. I have just overlooked everything that is being said and it just makes me stronger and more determined to show the negative ones that I can do it. Would you like to start walking with Crystal and I during the day? Let me know and we can meet at the park Monday morning.
I honestly think that when we are our heaviest we lose a bit of our self-esteem and our confidence level is low. People tend to feed on that. So once we start losing and start feeling confident then those who fed of our “lack of” are finding they have nothing to feed off us.
You seriously learn who your true friends are!